I was bored in lab and so I started going through people's blogs and tagboards to kpo and I came across this person's blog and saw his tagboard. This anonymous dick went put something like: Hey I think you and this person makes a good couple as compared to your ex. Don't you think so? I find it very disturbing. 'Cos this person definitely doesn't make a good lover. Why? 'Cos he's too quantitative and too comparative. Everyone's different and unique and that's what makes each and everyone an individual - and special. We all come in packages: bringing along a list of characteristics and features and there's none of them that could be modified or exchanged for another. So how could you compare your current partner with the previous one?
Making comparison is the root to all unhappiness 'cos you'll never feel happy. Each of us has our own shortcomings. If all day long, we keep making statements like: Oh you know my ex is better than you in this and you're better than my ex in that, you'll never sit down and get to enjoy your partner - which is the utmost important thing in a relationship.
Another friend came to tell me that he hasn't feel very good with his partner these days. 'Cos his partner never seems to be spontaneous. Emm...and I asked him: So he did ask you to go out for a movie today didn't he? He replied yah - and I hope with some bit of guilt. I mean if he weren't spontaneous, he wouldn't even want to ask to watch a show with you right? Ha...we all sometimes expect our other half to do this for us to do that for us. There's no wrong to expectation but if the other half fails to meet our expectations then emm...you're going to feel not loved enough. It only harms the relationship.
Like my wise old friend told me: in love, do what you can for the relationship not for the other person nor for yourself. That way both of you could feel happy.
I'm rather blessed now...and I feel much more learned 'cos it seems like I'm taking things easily, regardless work-related, love-related or money-related (and that's why I could get over you so fast. In case you're here looking at this entry, I just wanna let you know that through all the incidents and events that had occurred, I've seen you clear enough. And I'm equally disgusted.) It makes me feel less stressed out. I think this is the life I wanna have. Sometimes having a peace in mind and not thinking so much in love gives you that laid back feeling. You start to enjoy everything and feel good about yourself and your partner. I'm so looking forward to the picnic this coming Sunday and I'm not containing the excitment!
Love is not just about the sweet moments; it's also about all the obstacles two persons overcome and yet still be together...
